This feels wrong already.

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I did one book a week for 110 weeks.

Then I hit a wall.

I felt like I just couldn’t read anymore.

My mind didn’t want to keep consuming.

I went to the bookstore today. My safe space. My haven and I was so angry walking around.

Every book I picked up, either I felt like I had read something similar or it felt like the author was just repeating themselves over and over again.

I can’t tell you how many books I’ve read that would have been better suited either being:

A) Half the length…


Looking to do something new? Try one of these popular skills.

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People often want to break into business or technology, but worry they don’t have the degree.

Please don’t go back to school, save your money, and try one of these first.

No fancy certifications, just hard skills that can be learned for free or at a very minimal cost, on your own time.

Note: You could probably learn some of these in less than a month- time permitting.

1. Excel

Don’t roll your eyes!

Everyone writes Excel as a skill on their resume, but do you really, REALLY know how to…


Reflecting on a quarter century of life.

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There was a time I didn’t think I’d make it to 25.

Dramatic? Maybe.

I’m still holding onto the idea that the best is yet to come.

1. Love is a choice, not a feeling.

This one is from my favorite book on love, “The Course of Love” by Alain de Botton.

Growing up I always thought that love was butterflies. I thought love was that spark you felt when someone was near. As I’ve gotten older and watched the spark fade, I realized that love is really just a choice.

You wake up in the morning and you choose one person everyday.

When you fight with that…


Never stress about a presentation again

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Through analyzing my time at toastmasters and my everyday work, I’ve boiled down 3 key levels anyone can work through to improve their presentation abilities tenfold. Learning to present following these guidelines has won me several speaking competitions and resulted in actually getting paid to speak.

Everyone gets nervous when it comes to public speaking. Even if it’s just a little bit, even the best do. Learning to be a good presenter isn’t about not being nervous, it’s about learning how to present despite it. It’s easier than you think. Let me show you.


In a world where we are told to 10x everything, how do we quiet the noise?

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I like to think of myself as a well-oiled machine. I work at a pace of about 100mph and I am the textbook definition of type-A. There is nothing more satisfying than checking items off my to-do list, moving items from “To-Do” to “Done” on my Kanban board, and a clean inbox.

However, this proves a problem when it comes to my writing.

All I want to do is finish and publish.

The more I publish, the more of a writer that makes me…


No truly evil tactics involved.

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Maybe you are a parent dealing with kids who just won’t listen. Or, maybe you are a project manager with a lot of deadlines that you need to meet.

Either way, you need to get someone else to do something. Simply asking doesn’t work. Force makes you seem villainous. Raising your voice isn’t effective.

First, let’s change the narrative.

Instead of saying “getting someone to do what I want”, we will assume we are hoping to “enable someone to do the right thing for the greater good”. …


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What if I told you for the average person the biggest relationship they have in their adult life is completely at-will to another party?

At any time, you can have that relationship ended. You don’t get to fight back. You won’t get to make a case as to why the ties should not be cut. No amount of fighting can keep you in that relationship. There is no rhyme or reason why it’s ending either. Maybe you’ll see it coming, but likely you won’t. It’s completely out of your control.

If this was a romantic relationship, many of you would…


From a real spawn of Italians.

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Pasta sauce. The staple of Italian cuisine. Notorious for taking hours on end.

When I think of pasta sauce, I think of my nonna waking up at 5am to make handmade gnocchi’s and sauce for Easter. She was an incredible cook and my pasta sauce will never really do it justice. She was from old school Italy where food is no joke and everyone knows the more time you put into something the better.

But let’s face it. We live in a fast paced digital world. This isn’t old country Scardonia and sometimes, we…


Cumulus, nimbus, AWS, Azure and more..

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Cloud computing is a buzzword these days that gets tossed around by techies. From financial services to healthcare, you’ve probably heard some mumbling about the almighty “Cloud”.

For organizations looking to stay “fresh” and “hip”, hoping on the cloud bandwagon seems like a great idea for fear of being left behind if they don’t. However, before taking the leap, a lot of business decision makers are asking, “What even is this?”

Well, look no further. I’ve taken some time today to answer a few burning questions around cloud computing to help you decide if…


The new economy after Quarantine 2020.

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One day we will be able to go out to a bar again and have a drink with our friends without a care in the world. We may look back at this time and make jokes, but everyone is going to ask you, what did you do during that time?

So, ask yourself now, what have you done so far?

Maybe you were working remotely, maybe spending the time with your family, perhaps you have had some extremely bad luck during this time and I am deeply sorry. …

Alyssa Ramella

A collection of scolding myself and yelling into the void.

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